Çç Çocuklar, Çay Tea and Sympathy by Frank Renlie, courtesy of Getty Images. Having birthed our first child in Turkey, we know first-hand how much Turks love çocuklar, children. In fact, we would not hesitate to say that living in Turkey is like living in a country full of mother-in-laws. Everyone—strangers or friends, youth or elderly, men or women—have no hesitation telling you to put that extra jacket on your child so they won’t get a chill, stuff them with chocolate cake, and spoil them with all kinds of choke-able toys (and our real mother-in-laws don’t even do that!). Everyone is an aunt or uncle, grandma or grandpa, sister or brother, and everyone cares for each other. Another essential element of Turkish culture of course is the çay , or tea. Our son, Lincoln Umut, probably had his first sip of tea around six months. Actually, most babies start their tea addiction when they are in the womb. At kindergarten black tea with sugar is a normal part of snack time